Stop Hoping For Completion

Change your relationship to life instead

In the first chapter of The Way of The Superior Man, David Deida declares: stop hoping for “completion” in any area of your life.

“Most men make the error of thinking that one day it will be done.

They think, “If I can work enough, then one day I could rest.” Or, “One day my woman will understand something and then she will stop complaining.” Or, “I’m only doing this now so that one day I can do what I really want with my life.”

The masculine error is to think that eventually things will be different in some fundamental way. They won’t. It never ends. As long as life continues, the creative challenge is to tussle, play, and make love with the present moment while giving your unique gift.”

— David Deida, The Way of The Superior Man

Everything is impermanent. Every moment of life is constant change. The analytical mind likes to create well-defined categories, nice separate and labeled boxes to organize experience into comfortable understanding, but, chaos is the source of life.

What you achieve or fail to achieve in this world of change and form does not affect the underlying, eternal, spiritual reality. We achieve things in time. But eternally — every moment, always this moment —…