Stop Chasing Girls, Start Chasing Growth

Romance is great, but have you ever felt happy, secure, and driven?

There she is, across the room. She’s looked your way a few times, and you’ve been checking her out so you’ve “accidentally” made eye contact a few times.

She smiles.

Taking it as a cue, you stride over, trying to seem nonchalant, and strike up conversation.

She’s fun, smart, and beautiful, and it’s going great. Sooner or later, it’s time to go for the both of you since there’s work tomorrow, but you manage to land her number and arrange a coffee date.

That Saturday, things aren’t quite the same.

While playful at the bar, now she’s reserved and cold — more focused on her phone than you. So you get nervous, and start trying extra hard to impress her.

But that just makes her even less interested! The date ends with an awkward hug and a “See you again — sometime…” but it sounds more like “See you again… maybe never.”

And now you’re driving home over-analyzing every detail. Could you have been funnier? Damn, you could have been more relaxed. Maybe she has weird stuff going on at home and that’s why she was on her phone so much. Or maybe she just actually hated you?